positive messages every day


I was having breakfast with one of my best friends last week. She couldn't decide what she wanted to order. Her brow was furrowed as she stared at the menu. I asked her what was wrong. She said "I have my period. I hate myself. I feel ugly. I want to order everything on this menu but I feel like people would judge me." I laughed because she was right. It would be lovely if when you have your period, someone would deliver your favorite comfort foods with a note attached saying "You can do this! You're pretty! You're strong! Here, have some potato chips slathered in chocolate!"

Later as I was driving home, I thought "What if a little comfort was yours every time you opened a feminine product?" Right there on the pad or tampon, in big letters were words of encouragement. I love that idea.

If this is your special time of the month / aunt Flo is visiting / your bill came due, may you know just how strong and beautiful and kind you are. And order the blueberry pancakes. They work magic.

happy things: ten scents you miss from your childhood summers


Yesterday when I was ironing a shirt, I had the faintest whiff of that hot t-shirt shop smell. I was taken back to that scent that oozed out of boardwalk t-shirt shops when I was a kid. I loved that  cloying, almost burnt scent when the cute teen boy a couple of years older than you, wearing a Locals Do It Best t-shirt would hold down the handle of the t-shirt press and you knew that in just two minutes, your new pink cap-sleeved t-shirt featuring a glittery rainbow over a beach would be yours to treasure forever.  I would inhale that hot fresh chemical decal-on-a-t-shirt smell and be ridiculously happy. That scent is part of my history, and it must be important to me because even the faintest hint of it makes me smile.

I thought of how powerful our scent memory is and researched why exactly certain smells elicit such strong responses. Scientists at Brown University discovered a strong tie between autobiographical memory and smell at the neural level. In short, specific smells create vivid emotional memories. For example, smelling the perfume your mother wore when you were little elicits a much different response than simply saying the name, Jean Nate.  (Learn more here.)

What scents make you happy? What reminds you of those summer when you were carefree and ran around with as little clothes as possible? Here are my top ten scents that bring me right back to childhood and those lazy, wonderful, innocent days of happy.


Monday's happy video



When I start to feel myself getting in a bad mood, one thing to get me out of the funk is to watch a happy video. This one, of news anchors laughing, is one of my favorites. The Today Show anchor at 23 seconds in is my favorite. His reaction to Grumpy Cat is everything.

Happy Monday!