that "what was I going to say?" moment



There are these moments in life that give you a laugh, that make you feel connected to someone else. This is one of those moments.

You are in a great conversation with your partner, best friend, manager, mom etc. and the conversation is going something like this:

Best friend: "So then Sam and I went to that cafe, you know the one on Madison that serves those incredible Madelines? And it was so sweet, he." and she stops, tilts her head and says.

"Oh my God, I just totally lost what I was going to say," she laughs, furrows her brow and thinks intently. "Oh my God, what was I going to say?" She looks at you for the answer.

You're sipping your coffee waiting for the thought to come back to her. "I, I don't know."

She is still kind of laughing but she's getting insistent. "Come on, Taylor! What was I GOING TO SAY?"

You think for a moment and you, of course, have absolutely no idea what your best friend was going to  say and you tell her "Honey, I honestly have no idea what you were going to say next." You laugh a little and make that "I'm so sorry I wish I could help you figure it out" face.

Side note: Now don't get me wrong. I don't like the fact that someone forgets what they were going to say in mid sentence. Like one moment the thought was there and then on its way from the brain to the mouth it somehow vanishes, takes an early exit ramp into nowhere. No, I don't find that funny. What I find funny and kind of sweet is this next part.

If you're a good friend you'll try and help her get back to where she was so the two of you can finish your intense conversation and then go for that 3.87 mile walk around the park. The conversation continues.

Your friend is staring you and getting irritated that you don't know what she was about to say and the escalation starts to go like this: "Seriously, Taylor. WHAT WAS I GOING TO SAY?"

"I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA WHAT YOU WERE GOING TO SAY" is what you start to say but because you love her and she held you hair back in college when you attended that Tau Kappa party your first week on campus, you try and help her.

"OK, so you were talking about you and Sam going to that cafe. . ."

She stares at you blankly and shakes her head no.

"Um, before that you were talking about the fact that your mom sent Sam a handmade scarf. . ."

Nope, that doesn't ring a bell for her either.

"You like Madelines? You and Sam were maybe going to go somewhere after grabbing a bite? Before that we were talking about my blog and I told you I would teach you how to make the hair ties. Anything?"

And then she looks at you and (my favorite part!) you see the light dawn in her eyes.

"YES! MADELINES! He said that if we have a daughter he would like to name her Madeline which would remind him of our Saturday afternoons at the cafe eating Madeline cookies together. Isn't that sweet? I could marry this man!" and she is beaming either because this man makes her heart melt a little or because the two of you together helped her remember what she was going to say.

I love that.

And yes, I have also experienced the moments when I have been talking to someone and I forgot what I was about to say and said "What was I going to say?" and the person I was talking to me looked at me like "I don't know. If you can't remember what you were going to say, you're an idiot."

I don't like those moments as much.