I have spent a lot of time trying to fit into other people's view of me. Whether it was as a daughter, student, friend, wife or employee. I have been preppy, outgoing, quiet, studious, carefree and shy. I wanted people to like me and so I tried to be what they wanted me to be. This doesn't work. It doesn't.
One of the things that I have learned in this Happygirl Experiment is that you can't try to fit into someone else's plans or even in their view of who they think you should be. You will fill confined, annoyed, angry, defeated. You are amazing. You are the only you that ever was or will be. You shouldn't be dancing to someone else's tune. Only you know how to be you. There will be people in your life who think they know better. Like most of us, you have listened to what they have to say about you and you conformed to them but deep inside you knew that this wasn't you. It's OK to sing your song even if it's off key. You have this beautiful slate to fill with anything you want. Be you.
So, sing your own song, beat your own drum. Those who appreciate you will gravitate towards you. They will be singing their own songs. If you're lucky, the harmony will be just beautiful.